Identifying the ideal self

Identifying the ideal selfPage 1 contentsIntroduction1. Identifying my Ideal Self2. My Real Self3. Feedback From Others4. My schooling AgendaConclustionReferencesIntroductionMy name is Gavin le Roux and I am latestly the Parts Manager at Hatfield VW Braamfontein. I gull been employed in my current follow almost 6 old age, been a Parts Manager for the past 9 years and been in the Parts environment for everywhere 13 years.I have many goals and aspirations, twain private and within my segment, many of which I have achieved and excelled at and some which I am still on the job(p) towards. One of my major goals is to be infer a Dealer Principal, and for me to be fit to peruse this and be self-made in achieving this I will rent to become a more than than telling leader.So how do I become a more effective leader? Well first I to mark my Ideal Self which is the mortal I would ide aloney like to be and invasion myself to be, and to take the needful steps and actions to bo unce way towards becoming that person. Second would be to understand myself better by means of acknowledging who I currently am, my core values, causes of my behavior. Thirdly I would need to gather honest feedback from others as to attain my current positive and negative behaviors. Lastly would be to populate a personal gravelth learning agenda to identify key growth areas. 1. Identifying my Ideal SelfAs a Manager at my company I have vision to both grow my department and myself. In being commensurate to be successful at this I need to identify my Ideal Self, which is the person which I ideally longing to be.I have spent some time reflecting on where I currently am and what I have achieved at my company and where I would to take my department and myself to. During this process I have place both strengths and weaknesses and have identified key characteristics and traits which I would require to master in being commensurate to achieve in being my Ideal self within my company. Th ese characteristics and traits are as followsTo be an effective and successful leaderTo be enthusiastic and have a positive attitudeTo support my aggroup at all times and with all aspectsHave excellent Interpersonal skillsTo be confidentTo turn over effectively with my teamInspiringThrough these values I believe I heap grow both my department and myself and be able to take my team and department to the next train and as well as reach my personal goals within the company which is to become a Dealer Principal. I want to moderate a legacy behind me in my company and be known as the leader that took his department from zero to hero. A leader that set solid foundations, had great vision and implemented strategies to achieve his visions, a leader who was innovative and continually contri excepted to the growth of his department.Growth in my department will not come from me alone, but from me and my staff as a unit. For me to be able to get my staffs support and buy in I first need to master myself and understand myself in depth before I can master others and become a successful leader.The next step is achieving the necessary changes to myself in being able to get closer to being my Ideal Self is to apply Personal ascendence. Personal Mastery is the capacity to see where I am as a person at present vs. the Ideal person I want to be, and to continually work towards improvement in being that person.As I have already identified my key traits in being my Ideal self within my company, Personal Mastery will now function me in my move around towards continuous improvement towards applying my desired traits. Its all about self-discipline and taking responsibility to implement the necessary changes.People with a high level of personal mastery are acutely aware of their ignorance, their incompetence, their growth areas. And they are deeply self-confident (Senge, 1990).In addition to Personal Mastery, Emotional Intelligence (EI) is another tool which will assist me i n my journey to getting closer to my ideal self as it will assist me with the ability to deal effectively with my team.Daniel Goleman describes emotional intelligence as managing fingerings so that they are expressed appropriately and effectively, enabling people to work together smoothly toward their common goals.Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional knowledge, and to reflectively regulate emotions to promote emotional and intellectual growth (Mayer Salovey,1997) The ability to understand, interpret, and serve to the emotions of my staff will be a huge benefit for me in being a more effective leader.I am going to integrate my results from my Myers-Briggs Type indicator (MBTI) Personality report into EQ to illustrate my stronger areas and areas I need to focus on in terms of EQ. My MBTI results listed me as an ISFJ (Introversion, Sensing, Feeling, Judging) Personality. My Strong areas in relation to EQ areI notice what needs to be done to help people, I am sympathetic, tactful, and supportive to others in need and I notice and do little things that help others feel good. Now looking at key components in EQ, Empathy is vital in understanding the others emotions and being able to handle them in accordance to their emotional reactions.I accept responsibility beyond the call of job and follow through until my work is completed. This relates back to a key factor in EQ Motivation, which is the beloved to work for reasons beyond money or status and to peruse goal with energy and persistence.My areas which I would need improvement on in relation to EQ areWhen I am in a crisis, I bob up it difficult to remain calm and composed. I find it hard to hide my melancholy and worry until the situation is resolved. EQ is very such(prenominal) about self-awareness and self-regulation, I need to train myself to be more in tune with my moods and emotions, to contr ol them better and be able understand them and use them more effectively.I am an Introvert and am hence reserved, quite, private. EQ requires Social Skill for the ability to behave relationships and build networks.Understanding Emotional Intelligence will play a key role in helping me grow as a leader.2. My Real SelfWaking up to who you are requires permit go of who you imagine yourself to be. (Alan Watts)Ive learnt we as people often hide parts of our core temperament behind a mask in an effort to cover-up our flaws and insecurities. Weve been brought up in a initiation where people around us are like mirrors, reflecting distorted images of who we are and these distorted images are really of their own brokenness and pain. This unfortunately submerges our true self beneath the sur looking. As soon as we try to promulgate our trues self we are quickly judged and this pushes our true self even deeper under the surface and we replace it with a more acceptable self, a fake.Im goin g to use a few tools to give you a look into my Real-Self or alternatively worded as my True-Self.First tool is the My Ice-burg concept which is based on an iceberg floating in the ocean with part of it above the waterline and the rest of it infra the waterline. in a higher place the waterline my mask, my cover-up to the world and also my conscious mind. Below the waterline is my True self, which has been suppressed over time by numerous factors, and this area is also my unconscious mind.I have identified myself as illustrated belowI need to allow all of which lays below the water line to surface and to face it head on to be able to unleash my true self. Our true self is here now, but it has been pushed beneath the surface by the hands of time and pain and fearThe second tool is support Positions which is based on views and beliefs about ourselves and others. There are 4 basic Life Positions and Franklyn Ernest (1971) created the diagram below to illustrate these positions Frankl yn Ernst (1971)After spending some time trying to be brutally honest with myself in identifying where I am positioned in this grid, I found myself to be mingled with two quadrants which areI am OK / You are OK and I am OK / You are not OK.So why between two quadrants? Well, I see myself as someone who is quite happy with both myself and others, I feel very much in control of my own life and dont rely on others to achieve this, I have high standards and I dont ever so look at others as having lower standards for themselves. In short Im very much happy go lucky. Now, on the other hand I can also be find myself sometimes blaming others and wanting to be right and being firm. This is why I find myself to be between two quadrants, as I see mixed traits in my Real Self from both I am OK / You are OK and I am OK / You are not OK.3. Feedback From Others4. My Learning Agenda ConclustionReferencesAnon., n.d. Online Available at http//www.mountain-associates.co.uk/life_positions.htmlAnon., n .d. Online Available at http//www.becomeselfaware.com/the-importance-of-knowing-your-self.htmlAnon., n.d. Online Available at http//www.mytowntutors.com/2013/10/sigmund-freud-the-tip-of-the-iceberg/Flanagan, D. K., n.d. Online Available at http//drkellyflanagan.com/2013/01/18/the-secret-to-finding-your-true-self/ Accessed 23 contact 2013.McCarthy, D., n.d. Online Available at http//www.greatleadershipbydan.com/2010/01/top-12-development-goals-for-leaders.html Accessed 03 April 2014.mmolloy, n.d. 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